Are you feeling sad and lonely?
Are you feeling trapped in life depression?
Do you feel extreme loneliness?
Depression and extreme loneliness track us done no matter how gracefully we watch our steps; we trip. I have been there and I suspect some of you must have been there too. Yes, we’re talking about these two goons: depression and loneliness.
I don’t prefer to use the words like depression feeling alone or feeling sad and lonely much as it gives a kind of a heavy impression on the mind when you hear it or say it. To me it does. I never touch these sensitive topics but then from last couple weeks I have been going through the same and I stopped doing nearly everything even blogging.
I couldn’t write a single word. Every day I use to sit in front of a blank page so that I can come up with something productive for my readers which can add value to their lives but here I was whacked out. A sense of depression feeling alone kind of thing creeps in.
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When I finally got a hang of it I thought about writing this piece. It is coming straight from my heart and it means a lot to me. I know things like this happen to all of us in some or other ways.
And there are like a gazillion of tips and tricks that are viral throughout the web that can give you a step by step process to get out of that limbo.
After a very long time, I felt stuck like this and it got me to thinking seriously.
It wasn’t all that bad either something good came out of it. Maybe the universe wanted me to get out of everything for a while so that I can redirect my way out. At times we get so engrossed in our things that universe has to step in to break the pattern.
There are many reasons that break us inside out. Loss of a loved one, breakups, medical conditions, addictions, professional pressure, shattered dreams, and the list is endless. I know when loneliness turns into extreme loneliness.
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When you want someone to share your thoughts and nobody gives a damn including the dog down the road you feel lost and stuck. Trust me I know where you’re coming from. Here’s why I have come up with a list of ideas that you can try and get yourself out of the limbo.
Since no one size fits all and we all are wired differently so take your pick from the list and feel good. Our main motto is to reach the better spot.
So here you go.
And before you go any further I want you to bookmark this post so that you can come back in case you need these points to ponder on.
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7 Remarkable Ways to Beat Depression and Extreme Loneliness
1. Have a Positive Self-Talk
We all can temporarily fix our issues by sleeping, watching Netflix, swiping right, sobbing followed by countless sleepless nights and there are millions of things to do. But at the end of the day in that one definite moment where we come back to square one and we can’t escape. To get rid of that one moment you have to have a self-talk and there is no way out. Nothing can help you and me out than talking it out. Just like a mature adult conversation. When I first heard about this concept, I was baffled how a tiny tweak in the way we talk in our mind can change the dynamics. Thanks to Elizabeth Gilbert.
She suggests, to sit down at a calm place in your house alone for some time and tell yourself that our mind is capable of having infinite possibilities.
Whenever you start something big or act upon the new idea; fear steps in right after the idea, then past experiences follows in the form of failure, guilt, humiliation and you can choose the right word for yourself. And the next thing you know it’s not you alone in the room there is fear, sadness, depression, anxiety, negativity sitting right next to you whispering in your ear don’t do it, you failed recall past, look back.
Sounds like you?
In that moment you’ve to take control and tell your guests that whenever I am thinking or planning something significant about today or near future you all are welcomed. You all come up without invitation and that’s okay I still welcome you. You have your seats and opinion to offer but at the end of it, I am the one who will decide. At the end of the day, I am the decision-maker. You’re not allowed to ride over. And once you say it to yourself your mind will keep it somewhere and repeat that behavior it will become a firm thought in your mind.
This all we did is one way to talk to you. And you know once we’re sorted in the mind you’re through.
2. Go Where Love Is Or Go Where Pain Is
I know this statement is counter-intuitive but here’s the perspective. Listen to me well, whenever you’re really pissed go where love is like your family, your loved one, pet, a hobby, passion like that. And, if that is not working for you at the moment turn the other side and look where the pain is and by that, I mean everyone is going through their inner battles.
If you know someone who is going through a bad phase help them out unconditionally and at the end, you’ll end up feeling good about it. So going where the pain is and going where love is both situations can leave you with a different state of mind.
See it’s not about doing a charity at all. We all run into problems in some of the other way but then a nice word, a hug, a text or a simple call can make your day. These small things in life matter a lot. You give meaning to things.
There is a lot going on within us and around us; I think we all must spread some love, kindness, humor, and playfulness out so that we can make this all a better place to live in.
3. Write It Out
Being a writer I always do this but when even thoughts go numb what could come out of that zone. But I have tried it when you start rolling the dice you change your state and while writing you actually get to know your real thoughts. Writing works like a therapy to me it has always been and always will.
One funny thing happens when you start to write you suddenly realize that you were blowing things out of the proportion while the thing that was bothering you could have been taken in a lighter manner. It’s not always the same case but most of the times it happens. We must always see a situation as it is not bigger or smaller than it.
It works like a true salvation.
4. Sleep Over It
At times sleeping is the best option for all your problems. I know it sounds corny, right? But guys trust me on that when you sleep you go into a much calmer state and when you wake up to see things in a totally different light.
You must be thinking, it’s a crap how can I sleep when I am tensed over XYZ. Sure you’re overwhelmed and at the most vulnerable state of your mind but when we are stressed we tend to think and see things negatively. And being a smart person your next step should be to take yourself into a positive state of mind in the first place and then think about rest of the things. It’s a step by step process. But to realize these steps and take actions for them you have to have a calmer state of mind and for that, you must move to that “Victim mindset”.
It took me a very long time to realize that sleeping was a good option but once I started doing and no one suggested it came naturally to me. I literally “sleepover” issues that whacked me out.
It is always better to sleep then engaging yourself into a negative self-talk.
5. Dance Baby
No matter how offbeat it sounds just try it once, it really works like a magic bullet. Put on some nice music and just enjoy it. Focus on changing your state of mind if not to a perfect state then somewhere better than you are. I hope you know what I am talking about. We have to be in the flow of life then only we can work things out. Generally, people get stuck in the life and it starts to affect health, work and everything around them that matters.
I hope you know what I am talking about. We have to be in the flow of life then only we can work things out. Generally, people get stuck in the life and it starts to affect health, work and everything around them that matters.
Remember move to a better spot, change your frequency, tune into a good vibration and the next thing you know you’re already feeling better.
6. Read Something
Reading is a great way to change your current state of mind only if it appeals to you. I hope you know the staggering statistics of people who buy books and never read them. The numbers are insane. I am talking about peeps that have lived in the world of books.
You get to live in different worlds without even paying rent for it. It just ticked me; the story takes you to meet different characters, places, and nationalities beyond boundaries into a zone of limitless thinking without ticket or visa. And, it completely rejuvenates you.
If you have never been into this space then I would like to welcome you and if that’s not your cup of coffee then you might like my next step.
7. Talk It Out
When you can’t see things clear enough or feel them grab a phone and talk to someone where you feel like home.
Talk to someone you haven’t talk in years.
If you ever suppressed your feelings for some reasons just say it out loud. If you ever feel like saying something to someone then just say it. Don’t build on feelings over feelings
When we suppress we reach to a state where it gets no way to fit in and we burst out.
One thing that really amazes me in today’s digitally connecting world; the more and more apps and things of that nature surround us the more disconnected and discontented we feel. Peeps out there have the most expensive phones with an endless list of contact in there but when they actually need someone to talk; they have no one to call from that list. We’ve contacts but the connection is lost. I hope you know what I mean.
The point is to have a heart to heart conversation with like-minded people. It is always better to invest in people.
I tell you when I started writing this post; I was coming a from a blank zone like I said I was going through some issues but when I shifted my focus and asked myself the right question what can I do to change this situation and the rest you’re reading. I know it’s long and thanks for bearing with me. There was something inside me that made me write this post so that I can share every single point that changed my state of mind entirely.
Life is like that we lose balance in one situation and gain back in another. And, it will go on like that. As long as we remember that we can’t control everything that happens to us but we can shift our focus about how we think about things and chose our reactions carefully. We are pretty much sorted.
All the points I mentioned are equally important we all wired differently pick what works for you. The point is to get to a better and calmer state of mind and it needs a genuine effort from your end, nobody is going to do that for you. Take the initiative now and move to a better spot.
I hope you enjoyed reading this post as much I did writing it. If you would like to add your valuable inputs do write them in the comment section below. I really love reading your inputs. I really appreciate your love and concern.
Wherever your quest takes you, I hope this post will be your companion. Right from beating the blues, casting away those extra pounds, putting your best face forward, kissing the fear, I am here to turn your life around, for the good.
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