After gravity we are held by relationships of many kinds, there are many roles to play at one time, we have to be a rock star at work, responsible, loving and caring for our family always giving our best but playing all such roles we forget loving our real self. We overlook the need of self-love. Do you have a healthy relationship with yourself? Yes, you heard me right you need one because not everyone you love is going to love you back that’s why it is important to love yourself first.
As Carrie Bradshaw, (Sex and the City) quotes, “Some relationships open you up to something fresh and exotic, some make you feel familiar with you, and some bring you a lot of questions. All relationships are great to be in. But the most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And, if you can find someone to love you, you love, well, that’s just fabulous. If you accept yourself the way you are, you are half way done with all your troubles before even they arise.
The reason why I am writing this post is because the lack of self-love leads us into an unrecognized territory which is not only unknown but harmful to our personality and for our inner being. We feel lost, demotivated, low on confidence , we don’t live life on purpose, we just operate a meaningless life. Have you been there ? I am sure it is not a place to be. Switch to other side and love yourself it may not be best but worth it.
When you love yourself many changes happens you can get anything you want. Yes, anything as you can use bigger emotions to trigger you to a path that is meaningful and on purpose. When you choose to love, you feel good about being yourself, you glow in the skin you are, you feel valuable and confident, that’s where the journey of self-acceptance begins, and by doing what you love on a consistent basis it works like a feed to the soul. You find love not only inside you but in everything you see or meet, you found love, and when you accept things and situations you become an asset to people around you.
Sure, you’re not perfect and there are millions who feels the same way. You’re no exception. In fact, the best part of loving yourself is, you don’t need to be perfect you are good enough the way you are to love yourself. Oh, don’t expect you will become some perfectionist by loving yourself but yes you will gain much more terms of self-acceptance, appreciation, and everything that is accountable for being a better human being. Love yourself first and see everything in a new light where everything makes sense.
When you have a healthy relationship with yourself, your gut stays happy with you. When you are internally connected with yourself, you become still in your behavior. A major shift happens in your perspective that shapes your behavior. When you love yourself, the mind is full of empathy, kindness, gratitude all together makes a nice soothing story in your head that keeps you in balance. What story do you repeat in your head all day every day? Is it compelling? Does it propel you towards your goal?
The way you see and love yourself makes all the difference in your behavior and actions you take. Like for example, people dealing with weight issues, keep telling them they are not good enough for so and so, I am a misfit in a certain group of people. Gradually they withdraw themselves socially from the people. In their head things get worse, depression settles in. We lose focus and tend to operate negatively. We have low self-esteem, resist change, ultimately you don’t grow in mind, life or anything that make sense to you. Instead, choose to love yourself.
You know what, you will meet many people who will punch you in the face, try to put you in the deepest waters you could ever imagine, kill you many times with their verbiage, and self-sabotaging limiting beliefs and mentality, they will attack you with their own burden of failure and frustration. Trust me you will find them in abundance, at least for goodness sake don’t become one like them. Nobody will trust you, love you the way you can love yourself. It’s only you who knows your capabilities. Until you prove to them you have to tell yourself, you are good enough for anything that universe has to offer. Cultivate the attitude of gratitude, kindness, self-love and continue to love yourself.
There is no magic pill that will make you feel better. Accept yourself the way you are right in this moment and then move. Don’t carry the burden of past. It has gone forgone. In this second, you are new, you have new opportunities, and it’s your call where you have to focus, where focus goes energy follows.
I have seen many people who curse their body every single time they look themselves. They eat and curse food because of you I am like this. And there are some great people who even curse their government for making bad roads of which they aren’t walking. Come on guys. Give me a break and yourself too. If you want to do something, go do it. Without giving yourself a trail of reasons, 101 reasons why you can’t do something, there are many reasons out there, you can blame every person on this entire planet including me she is late writing this post.
Look around there are piles of excuses, I tell you they are everywhere, in the bedroom, courtroom, boardroom, and every room you can possibly imagine. Why can’t we just do what it takes? By giving excuses we are just fooling around others and ourselves. Time is fleeting, and your piece of art is still not in shape. When will you write that book that is living inside you for years, walking, sleeping, sobbing inside you asking you when will you let me out, it’s suffocating here? Get me out of here.
If you don’t know anything about self-love or how to take a stand on love listen to this Tedx Talk
When will you write that book ?
When will you start that business you had in mind for years?
When will you start that blog?
When will you make that change?
When will you tell yourself you are good enough for it?
What are you waiting for?
Hear it out from me, you will die one day with all love, compassion, creativity, kindness, greatness, yes your genius will die. And people are so foolish they don’t realize, life so uncertain, this life will change in a micro-mini flip of a second, and all your future plans will go in vain.
Today is the best day to do what you missed on, today is the second best chance to start again, today could be the last day to tell someone how much love them and lucky to have them in your life.Today could be the last hug of your life. From every fiber of my being, I am saying it to you all, live your life once before you die. You know better what you are doing with yourself. You don’t do what you need to do that’s reason you are popping pills every night.
Every idea is expecting the execution, acceptance. It’s like a baby who looking for his mother, asking you every now and then are you my mother ?Give life to your ideas and dreams don’t let them die within you. Give life to that pulse which is waiting to shout out loud, feel something, to have some more, love more, be more. You don’t need to drink to express your feelings; it’s already there in your gut. Your heart knows it all, it’s just they don’t want to accept it. Be real, live real, love real, come out of a fancy world, where boozing and drinking tell your gut it’s time to puke. What kind of a person does that?
Accept yourself the way you are fat, ugly, broke, whatever. If you don’t like the way you feel about yourself change it, stop listening to the negative podcast you play in your head.If you want to be healthy, you need to stop that self-sabotaging mental diet you are on for years. You have to love yourself. Stop seeing that invisible monster dietician who prescribed you this famished mental diet plan. If you don’t know how to love yourself after all that you have done. You don’t have to go the nearest bar or medical store for magic pills. Just go into your next room and see your parents. They are the live example of unconditional love and support and I bet you nobody can give you that feeling on this entire planet, not even your joint.
We all know we have done a lot of experimenting with our lives, career, money, and everything that comes under the sun. And we have failed miserably over and over. But still, to this day, our parents love us even when they know we are a square peg in a round hole. If they are intact, smiling, living, and doing everything that makes sense then why can’t you. Stop judging, fighting with yourself. When you can’t laugh at the same joke over and over then how can you beat yourself over and over for something that happened years ago? Don’t be so hard on yourself. Life is fragile. Live in every moment.
State of mind is the game changer for every situation in our lives. If our state of mind is at peace then nothing matters to us. No matter how hard life hits we stay intact. And, if we lose our state of being, even the tiniest tweak of thoughts makes us nuts. Am I right?
Why are you trying so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?
“Stillness and solitude give birth to Creativity. Solitude nurtures imagination. All that we see in a material world was once an idea in someone’s head. Each time I feel I just cannot move forward in life, I seek refuge in silence and solitude – and, sure enough, I get inspired by a fresh dose of faith, infusing hope and confidence” by Tunisha Mehrotra, Enduring Romance With the Self, Speaking Tree.
Fill yourself up with acceptance, love, gratitude, kindness. Love yourself first, experience the power of choice, love, embrace yourself fully, and then see how magically your life transforms for the good. Like sun never says to earth that you owe me, if he does what kind a relationship would it be? When you love yourself, you become a constant source of energy, you are always full to give unconditionally. Be like sun bright and insightful. Be someone’s sunshine.